We Should Write Less And See Each Other More
New technologies allow our relationships to survive. On the other hand, this observation does not mean that all the consequences of this technological evolution are good. In fact, we are gradually ceasing to see each other, replacing face to face with writing. It is impossible to accept this, we must write to each other less and see each other more.
Today’s contacts are more based on Whatsapp chats than shared cups of coffee. As a direct consequence of this, the exchanges are generally less deep and rewarding than those established over coffee, looking into each other’s eyes and hugging each other on cold days.
Because good communication is established through a hug and giving time to the people we love. It shouldn’t take so much effort on our part. If the truth is we don’t have the time, maybe we should review our daily life and our scale of priorities.
Taking care of ourselves and our loved ones doesn’t have to be an end of the list task. The best conversations don’t happen through Whatsapp. What is truly heartwarming is seeing yourself more.
Virtual social networks, enemies of active listening and dating
There are still very few studies analyzing the impact of the use (or abuse) of social networks on our psychological health and on the creation of stable and of course, real social support networks.
Nonetheless, we can see that we have stopped looking each other in the eye to conjure something important. Interruptions are constant during the shared moments and we gradually stop practicing active listening.
The fact of maintaining a conversation Whatsapp on an important subject pushes participants to lose a large amount of important information. These are data and reflections that should allow us to read the problem more precisely. It can also allow us to improve the quality of support we can offer to each other.
Through social networks, we lose ourselves in appearances, half-truths and forced impressions. The relationship thus loses its quality. We end up no longer recognizing ourselves when we see each other, by no longer being able to read the faces of our friends, by no longer knowing their true feelings.
Although the communication is sincere, it is always incomplete. This is another reason why we should see each other see each other more and write to each other less.
Moreover, this fact does not specifically exclude the cumulative effect . Little by little, we are including these communicative habits in our daily life. We ultimately end up perceiving ourselves in a distorted way.
FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out) syndrome
FOMO syndrome refers to the fear of losing something. This fear responds to the need to always be online, not to lose any updates on what is happening on social networks.
It ultimately means that other people’s lives are more interesting than our own lives and therefore more important than real relationships. Their consequences are harmful for our state of motivation because we stop taking care of our life. It is a way to cover the fictitious need to control our virtual environment.
Certainly the need to be always connected and up to date with what is happening on the networks limits us when we need to benefit people in a real way. The sad reality is that in the news, the smartphone is almost always present. It takes both quality and quantity out of the relationship.
For that, we should force ourselves to put aside our phone when we are with someone. We should also try to offer real contact often.
Because as we said before, the best discussions don’t take place on Whatsapp. We need to see each other more and avoid turning social media into our only means of contact. It is a channel through which information circulates, but hardly complicity.
Our thoughts Whatsapp has become an essential daily service. It must be said, it makes our life easier. But is it positive for couples?
