Personal Revelations: Advantages And Communication Problems
What do we do when we meet a person? We use personal revelations to break the ice and start a fluid conversation. In other words, we provide free information about ourselves. No one asks us for something personal. However, we use this strategy to try to establish a bond with the other person.
Personal disclosures are considered strategies because they are an important part of our social skills. Some people use them less than others. Their use is often beneficial. However, they can cause problems when used excessively.
Personal revelations when we meet someone
How do we identify personal revelations? It is very simple. Whenever we express an opinion, express our desires, or talk about ourselves, we are using personal revelation. They are therefore a way of making us known. A strategy to create a warm and pleasant atmosphere and, sometimes, to try to correspond with the other. For example, we are on the right track to bonding, when we give an opinion and the other person agrees with us.
Giving information about ourselves is very nice. This indeed creates a climate of trust and invites the other person to talk about themselves. It is normal in these circumstances for interest to exist and questions to arise.
Personal revelations are very helpful because we don’t know anyone better than we know ourselves. Personal disclosures are a good start to start a conversation if we have low social skills. Giving out personal information is always attractive. This arouses curiosity and invites others to want to know us better.
However, we sometimes make certain mistakes when using this tool. We often don’t know why someone didn’t like us or why the relationship didn’t develop. This type of situation can reveal a problem of personal revelation.
The problems of personal revelations
While personal disclosures seem like a great way to start conversations and meet new people, they can still hurt us at times. Below we will outline some of the errors that can generate tense situations.
Project a false image
All the information we pass on about ourselves is “good information”. We are not talking about our shortcomings, deficiencies or weaknesses. We can thus project a false image which can make us lose all credibility if we transmit this type of information.
There may come to our minds a situation where we thought that another person believed himself to be better than the others or presented himself as a perfect person. She was certainly exaggerating when talking about herself or focusing too much on the positive.
Exceed by giving information
Some people like people who are honest with them, who open up, even if they don’t know each other very well. Others, on the other hand, are uncomfortable with certain types of information. This is why we have to be careful until we know perfectly the person with whom we are interacting.
For example, giving too much detail when telling something or expressing feelings precisely can generate some rejection if there is no trust. We must therefore be very attentive to the non-verbal communication of the one in front of us. This will let us know whether or not we should keep certain things to ourselves.
Let’s not lose sight of the fact that being hermetic and not providing any information about us does not promote the building of new relationships. The same is true if we exaggerate the information and pass it on as if we were talking to someone we know well (without actually being). Both of these extremes are very negative. The success of personal revelations therefore lies in balance.
It is very likely that most of us have made mistakes through personal revelation. It’s normal. It is difficult to distinguish what information to convey immediately, or to guess whether the other person will feel bad about what we are saying. However, we learn it through experience.
The most important thing is to be aware of the automatic use we make of this social skill. To be aware that personal revelations strengthen the links with our knowledge. May they also help us build relationships with strangers. The magic is in the balance.
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