Love And Responsibility: Taking Care Of Those You Love
Love and responsibility are two sides of the same coin. Partner, kids, family, friends and even yourself. Affection for those in our life and also for ourselves involves acting responsibly, taking care of our actions, and ensuring the well-being of those we love. However, we often neglect this dimension.
We do this, for example, when we blame the other for certain problems or situations. We accuse him without even you that we too participated in this dynamic. A relationship, whatever the bond (couple, friendship, etc.), is an interaction between two people.
On this small planet, everything counts: words, actions, silences… In order for this precious world to continue to rotate with the same luminosity, we must learn to be responsible. We are able to exercise this psychological muscle with intelligence and sensitivity.
Love and responsibility: two dimensions that go hand in hand
Albert Ellis used to point out that many people prefer to shirk their responsibilities. It’s always easier to escape or let others take responsibility for a circumstance. If we really want to play an active role in the theater of life, love and happiness, we have to take responsibility.
Some works like the one done by the University of Missouri remind us that if we are free to make our decisions, to be autonomous, to create friendships, couples or families, we are obliged to develop this skill. In addition, responsibility and happiness are two dimensions that always go hand in hand.
What you say and do matters to each other: be responsible for your actions
Nothing we do (or don’t do) goes unnoticed by the person who loves us. We sometimes overlook the other’s perspective by focusing exclusively on ourselves. We do not then measure the effect of our behavior or our words. However, everything is processed and filtered at the level of emotions.
Responsibility for owning mistakes
A mature person with adequate emotional competence is able to take responsibility for their own mistakes and correct them. It will seldom occur to him to hold the other responsible for what has happened. If you are directly or indirectly responsible for suffering, you must step in and find a way to deal with it.
Have a conscience
Responsibility and conscience are two basic gears in happy relationships. This ability to glimpse the reality of each situation, recognize what is happening, what is wrong and act accordingly is an act of emotional health.
We often complain about those people “who are not aware of certain things”. Who act without thinking of the consequences and overwhelm us with their selfishness and childish behavior. Few things are more necessary than developing a good awareness of how to act in every situation.
You are my responsibility (and I am yours)
Love and responsibility form a thread that mingles with daily complicity, with the genuine desire to take care and protect those you love. Understanding that the other is our responsibility (and vice versa) means above all that each must strive to promote the well-being of the other. It is about being a help and not an obstacle.
Know what you need, and what the other needs
Another principle of responsibility in emotional ties is to offer others what they need. In most cases, we know how this dimension is articulated. We all need to feel loved, respected, valued and supported in every circumstance.
Likewise, it is also important to know how to express to others what we want, what we don’t want and what we lack. We have a responsibility to know how to express and claim our desires without waiting for others to guess them.
Love and responsibility: two sides of the same coin
Any relationship gives us meaning and purpose. It is essential to keep this in mind at all times. It forces us to take responsibility for many aspects, not just those that focus exclusively on the other.
Being responsible is also investing in love, because nothing is more rewarding. In doing so, something always comes back to us, always nourishes us, gives us vital meaning. Caring for those you love is caring for those who give you meaning and happiness.
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