Anyone Who Loves You Will Make You Believe In Yourself

Whoever loves you will not put any barriers on your horizon. And won’t tell you phrases like “You can’t, you don’t know, or you don’t deserve this”. Anyone who truly appreciates you will make you believe in yourself. It will give wings to your dreams, put magic in your pockets and fuel your gray days with stars to remind you of what you are capable of.We are aware that one of the most important values ​​to achieve the famous psychological fullness is being able to believe in yourself. However, no one can germinate a pretty flower if the seed has not yet given root.If in childhood, for example, we were taught the idea that we are clumsy or unskillful people, this growth will not be harmonious: what will germinate will be our limiting beliefs.

“A true friend is someone who believes in you even though you yourself have stopped believing in it”.

In much of the personal growth literature that we have today, regarding the development of confidence, there is one thing that we often overlook. We are encouraged to believe in ourselves, despite the difficulties, despite the antagonistic voices, the brakes on self-esteem. However, to take this course towards strength, first of all, it is necessary to take a careful inner journey for which we are not always prepared.

To believe in us, we must first deactivate many mined lands, created in particular in childhood, but also afterwards. Throughout our lives, in studies or in emotional relationships, we have lived in frustrating dynamics that may have profoundly affected our vision of ourselves, our self-esteem.

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The difficulty of believing in yourself when “power figures” do not believe it

Let’s start by describing what we mean when we talk about “power figures”. In the book  , educator Sir Ken Robinson tells us about a special case: that of Gillian. This 8 year old girl was a clear example of school failure. Her parents and even her teachers didn’t give much for her future. She was too slow, too irresponsible, distracted, completely out of touch with the world.

His via was destined for total failure. We were in the 1930s. However, everything changed when a psychologist decided to give him tests and discovered something very curious: the child was very receptive to music. He left her alone in the classroom and realized that the little one needed to “dance to think”. Gillian was an inside dancer. So much so that Gillian Lynne has now become one of the most important dancers in history.

Power figures are those who at some point have in their hands the power to cement or not our self-esteem and personal security.

A good mother, a good father will grow up a child who is able to do what they decide to do, who deserves to fulfill their dreams and who is as worthy as anyone else for it. But it does not help much if when the child arrives at school, another authority figure, such as a teacher or the education system in general, instead of encouraging and to guide, is limited to making him believe that he “is not suitable”. That having an 8/20 is synonymous with becoming marginalized for life.

Thanks for believing in me

There are very many people who have lived negatively programmed for a long time, via this emotional conditioning exercised by their parents, their co-workers or their spouses. These limiting beliefs take hold in our brains as a “Trojan”, reformulating ideas, erasing desires, shattering dreams, and instilling fears and insecurities.

Many psychologists speak of the need to go “back to the source”. Remove one by one all the layers, scabs and poorly closed scars to discover this figure that dared to take more power than us at one point, to make us believe that we were not able. That we didn’t deserve to take the reins of our own happiness. Because sometimes, the famous formula “I will tell myself what I am worth and how much I love myself so that my perception of things changes” does not always work.

This inner journey to healing is always good. We have to “take authority away” from this teacher who told us that we will never get nowhere. To this father who repeated to us almost all the time: “Look, you are clumsy” or to this spouse, determined to point out our failures in order to highlight his own qualities.

In addition to this process of breaking down one by one our limiting beliefs, it is vital to surround yourself with valuable people. Few things are more comforting than having someone who believes in us even when we have stopped doing so. Someone who hardens our doubts, who encourages our hopes and nourishes our dry branches.

If you already have one or more such people around you, do not hesitate to thank them from the bottom of your heart from time to time. “Thank you for believing in me”.