7 Things I Learned From My Biggest Mistake

I once read that the turmoils and jolts that a person may experience in their lifetime do not happen by chance, but on the contrary to make that person change.

When we experience unpleasant things, we regret the emotional state we were in previously, and we suffer a lot because we wonder “why does it always have to fall on me?”.

Consequently, we have the impression of losing part of our essence, even our innocence. We feel weird, confused, and we fail to realize the therapeutic value that suffering can sometimes have.

When you get hit, two things can happen: either you drown or you are reborn and you become a better person.

It doesn’t matter what your mystical beliefs are, whether or not you believe in karma. We are talking to you here about something more pragmatic, something that cannot be questioned.

Only the events that we experience intensely with our body and our mind can lead us to question things that we would never have done before.

Indeed, when something happens to our friend or our neighbor, we easily realize it, but when it happens to us, we suffer and we are affected.

We often hear phrases like “The important thing is to get up after a fall” or “If you make a mistake, you must learn from it” .

There is no manual that teaches us how to live; we live in a world where things are constantly changing.

The wisest people embrace change, and for them, “it is not the strongest that survives, but the one who adapts best to change”. Change is always preceded by confusion and learning by trial and error.

I learned more from my mistakes than from my “successes”

Think about a mistake you made in your life, but one that can be humanly understandable.

All the mistakes that we make do not make us a good or a bad person, and it is important to specify it because on this subject, the remarks are to be qualified.

If we look at our life through the prism of the mistakes we have made, we choose the “worst” for us. Have you ever thought about the value of the lesson you may have learned from this mistake? Have you ever thought to yourself that “you saved yourself,” or that you secured your value system by making this mistake?

“The mistakes made by great intelligences are more instructive than the truths proclaimed by mediocre geniuses”
-Arturo Graf-

Don’t worry, you’ll enjoy reading the rest of this article if you’ve never taken the time to think about it. Some of the lessons we learn from our mistakes are more universal than they seem.

The “biggest” of my mistakes taught me the following things:

• Life can surprise you for good, but also for bad: you have to be prepared for any setback that may arise, and there is nothing better in such a case than being able to cope with it on your own.
• Not all the emotional support you receive is necessarily valid. Only quality matters, quantity does not.
  To believe that one is trapped in a difficult situation or in an emotional bad patch is only a failure.
  You need to be careful, and not look for just any kind of social support, but rather focus on the kind of support that will really help you.

• It’s in bad times that I know myself best, but also that I know others best: we say that we cannot know a person before living with them, but have to face a problem. he economic, social or emotional order can also be very denouncing.
  Prince Charming isn’t as handsome as you might think, and that hugging person isn’t necessarily your friend. We are not suggesting that you cut ties here, but rather stick to cordiality.
• Experiencing the indifference of some will lead you to be touched by the loyalty, sensitivity and passion of others: this habit that we have of underestimating certain people around us is really terrible.
  It is only when we are in a bad patch that we can appreciate their greatness. Honest people are not appreciated over time, but when their honesty and kindness shine.

• Everything passes, everything changes, nothing is permanent: over time, one of the most heartbreaking suffering or disappointment always ends up collapsing, softening and dissipating.
  In the future, thanks to this suffering which will have led you to see things with more clarity, your principles will be more stable.
• Mistakes are surmountable, but disappointments are irreversible: mistakes are surmountable, and lessons can be learned. You can forget the people who disappointed you, but never what they made you feel.
• Thanks to everything I have learned, today I am a better person:  no less sensitive, neither innocent, nor even more “smart”; I am simply a person who has clearer ideas, who is more self-sufficient, and who has the ability to turn a deaf ear to what does not interest her in order to benefit more from what she is passionate about.

The bittersweet flavor of my mistake prepared me for more falls

We all inevitably make several mistakes in our lifetime, even if we think that everything is under control. Error is part of our development and our evolution.

If we learn from our mistakes, the next time we fall, we can cushion our fall and get up faster. If you never make mistakes and if you never go through bad times, you are leading a very limited life.